Most writers seem to agree more with Jim Conway who says, "Escaping the midlife development crisis is probably as likely as the child escaping adolescence."
You should feel free to make changes at midlife. These changes are part of what will bring you successfully through the crisis.
At midlife, we must
we believe in and struggle toward it even when our progress seems
Don't give in.
With panic often come thoughts of escape. Midlifers sometimes try to flee their problems through things such as extramarital affairs, or to hide from them, maybe behind a bottle of alcohol. But these stop-gap measures, while providing temporary relief, will eventually cause much grief. It's like taking anti-inflammation drugs for appendicitis. It stops the pain for now, but will hurt much more in the long run.
Change, however, is different than escape. You should feel free to make changes at midlife. These changes are part of what will bring you successfully through the crisis. Just be sure to change in ways consistent with your values.
Don't give up.
Finally, midlifers in crisis describe themselves as trapped in a dark tunnel with no light at the end. Why keep crawling toward the end if, one, we aren't sure in which direction the end lies; and, two, we don't know if there will be light there when we arrive?"
This is where faith comes in. At midlife, we must decide what we believe in and struggle toward it even when our progress seems negligible. Like astronauts circling the back side of the moon, we trust the principles that began our journey to complete it, even when our destination is hidden. And like the same astronauts, we will see our sun again, quite possibly in a richness and splendor unnoticed in former days.
I'm not saying all this is easy; it isn't. But it is our hope, and it's hope that eventually will see us through the midlife crisis.
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