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Response: A Grandparent's Advice to Parents

I am sitting in my "office" trying not to listen to the screaming little voices in the othe room. My husband is watching two of our grandchildren, ages 1 and 2. This is the 7th day in a row that we have tended them. No kidding! My new "office" became available when my 19 year old son moved out recently. He had tried to go on a mission for our church, but became so homesick that he had to return home. He has been diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder. I guess I caused it by being too overly protective. Now comes my advice. Somewhere between being a cautious parent and being an irresponsible parent lies the "ideal." Never put your entire life on hold, as I did, to be a constant companion to your children. It will backfire, and later they will certainly resent your smothering-mothering. I have lost two sons from doing exactly that. On the other hand, be responsible for your children, and don't dump on the poor old grandparents. Remember that we have raised our children, and we are a little worse for wear for having done so. Have a good life, and good luck with the mid-years!

SK

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