Hi. And welcome to the first bed and breakfast inn dedicated exclusively to midlifers and located completely in cyberspace. Whether you've come to have fun (most of us are here at least partly to play), to just get away, to discover and reaffirm your identity and passion in life, to recover from a loss, or to work through a midlife crisis; I'm glad you're here.  So put on some grubbies, take your shoes off, and stroll leisurely through the grounds. You'll meet some of my old friends here and my new ones. There's plenty of opportunity to visit with them and me, so come on in and look around. And be sure to sign the guest registry. We want to know who's walking these trails with us.

January 2, 2001

Hello!
I found your web site on my search for answers in helping my husband and our relationship.  "Crying in Western NY" was of
particular interest to me.  Even though we still have "occasional sex", I can see our relationship getting to that point.  My heart hurts and I find the situation stressful and overwhelming at times. I live in Denver, Colorado and my name is Donna.  Glad I
stumbled on to you!

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January 29, 2001

Just a quick note to thank you for Best Years website. My story is similar to many that I have read in the Midlife Forum.  My husband of 14 years just informed me that he didn't love me anymore (although I am still his best friend). He also informed me that he doesn't want to be married to me anymore and whatever we have between us just isn't enough. I know now that
it is a full on mid-life crisis and this has allowed me to breath deeply, move about my own life a little more fully and just wait.  It has been only three weeks since he informed of his confusion, but after reading the stories on your site, it really helped give me a perspective on what is going on.  Thanks for maintaining a very helpful site.

Cheers, Judy

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Hi, I have recently discovered this website and find it very interesting, I will be sure to explore extensively

Elaine

Ontario Canada

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February 12, 2001
Just visiting your Bed and Breakfast Inn. We are located on the Eastern Shore of Maryland. Very  interesting site Mike. Thanks. Robin

February 20, 2001
I love your website. It's been helping me deal with my husband's MLC. The man I knew is "gone" and I don't know when/if he'll be back. He has blamed it all on me. I've been on that "roller coaster" since October 2000, and at times I just want off. After reading the stories on your website, I know this all sounds familiar to you, and I'm relieved to see that I'm not alone.
It just makes me wonder "why" it happened to me? At times I feel clingy or pushy with him so that he will give me some answers, but he doesn't have any. Other times I feel like just giving up since there's nothing I can do.We've been married 21 years. He's 45; I'm 42. We have two children, 18 & 15. We built a strong family life for our kids. I think the only reason he's
still around is because he doesn't want to shatter their lives too. My Valentine's Day (yesterday) felt like a farce. I know the best thing to do is give him some space. I need to act indifferent and reinvent myself. That's easier said than done when you don't know what tomorrow holds. He could "come back" as fast as he left, or he could be gone for good. I guess I just need to prepare for the worst?

Anyway, thanks again for your insight and sharing your concern with "us".

Joan