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June 14, '99

I enjoy your clarity of thought on both extra- marital affair and broken window, the only two I have read so far. Your column will become my favourite site. I agree with you on both account. I am in a crisi as I am going through major changes. My life has been destroyed both by extra- marital affairs as well vebal abuse. I, however, firmly believe that "I can do all things through Christ who strenghtens me" I THEREFORE WILL NOT LET ANYONE GET INTO MY HEAD SPACE TO DESTROY IT I HAVE TO BE POSITIVE!!!! THANKS FOR AN EXCELLENT COLUMN

MGS

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Dr. Bellah,

How I came across your website, I don't know, but I'm glad I did! I must admit I'd never heard of you or your column before - but that's because I've lived in Mexico City for the past 16 years (after growing up in Indiana.) I've read several of your columns and found them "light" but not "lite"; by that I mean that they certainly are easy to read, but also have valuable content. I also see that you have a message board area and other ways for readers to interact with you and each other - what a great site! I will certainly return here often.

I'm female and "only" 35 years old, but after reading some of the columns I have concluded that I am already in the middle of a midlife crisis. Maybe it's because I am not married and do not have children, so I have more time to mull over all these philosophical questions!

The request mentioned in the Subject box is this:

I would like your permission to reprint ONE of your columns on my friendly little website. The article in question is "There is Life After 40." My sister Karen (only sibling) will be turning forty on July 2nd, and I am putting up a little website to commemorate this grand event. I'm trying to keep things upbeat (NOT "you're over the hill"), and your article would go perfectly. Of course I would put in a plug and a link back to your website right in the by-line. What do you say?

Robin

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Robin--My pleasure. Use it any way you like, and what a neat idea for a 40th birthday present.

Mike

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June 28, '99

Good morning,

Just hooked up with your site for the first time. I believe we will really enjoy it. Am eager to read more of the offerings. Thanks,

MaryIda Heskamp

July 2, '99

Dear Mike, First of all I want to thank you for the time and effort you have put into reaching others via the internet. I have recently experienced within the past year last June my 21 year old daughter leaving for Seattle learning last May my 23 year old son was going to be a father the birth of this son's beautiful daughter (I was there for the delivery) watching helplessly the breakup of this son's relationship with his girlfriend after the birth of his daughter saying goodbye to my grand-daughter and her mother who both left for Texas in March (we are on good terms) my son's departure for the states two months ago after his crisis of a failed relationship and having my youngest daughter (age 19) leave for the military three weeks ago my diagnosis of a latex allergy in January (I am a nurse on an oncology unit) not working since January until my employers decide what to do with me - I have been off the unit and in the QM Dept. and medical records auditing charts. My regular job was 3-12 hour shifts; now I work 4-8hrs days + 1-4 hour day for a total of 36 hours a week. I am unable to work an occasional OT which helped my daughter with school

So, you know what they say...when it rains it pours. Browsing the net during a period of depression I came across your website which was God sent! Thank you ever so much for sharing your experiences and having a very useful website. Keep up the terrific work.

MN

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July 12, '99

MEGA DITTOS ON YOUR ARTICLE. I am now mid-life, and have been unemployed for over 6 months with over 20 years in the telecommunications field. I am now contemplating some courses as the +or MCSE in order to update my previous undergraduate degrees (2), and MBA. Thanks for the encouraging words. Actually, your article will help the most when I show it to my wife, who is the one who needs the convincing!

Good luck Mike. I will let you know how I progress in the next few months.

God Bless,

Bob M.

July 20, '99

Turning 40 in 2 days. This was looking to be my most difficult birthday yet, if I lived through it. Happened upon you web page and realized that It is possible to be "over 39" and still be an okay person.

Thanks for the lift!

R

July 26, '99

Hello Mike...

Each time I explore your website and read all the valuable (real life!) information, I find a sense of peace. Peace. What a simple word, but at times a struggle to find and keep within ourself. Peace...that part of my life that for the past several months was in a void stage.

I found your website several weeks ago and I'm hooked. I read more than I reply, I guess I'm still in the "what the hell am I going throught" stage...

I applaud your efforts, your enthusiam, your truth in the works you have so generously given to us all...

We are blessed to have you as our friend.

Keep up the good work!

Kathy

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Kathy, Thanks for the kind words, and I am blessed to, for I receive much more than I give on this site. Thanks for your part.

Mike

August 16, '99

hello mike: I am working on a paper on human development, adulthood. your writings about the autumn of our years let me get in touch with real life experience rather than just ideas copied out from a text book. please register me as a guest to bed and breakfast inn. thank you. hn

August 21, '99

Dear Mike,

Thank you for this site. My husband of 23 yrs has left us for a younger woman and our family is being torn apart emotionally.

Diana C

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August 29, '99

Hi Mike, This is a wonderful web site, I'm new to it. My h of 30 yrs. moved out at the end of April. Actually we were married 30 yrs. in May. He and I were best friends--I thought, with the normal ups and downs. He is a professional man and has the big "mlc" and as I learned on your web site, does'nt think it's mlc. I'm 99% sure that there is not an ow---is that possible??? My atty. says if that's true it's a first for him (29yrs practicing)

I have been blessed to live in the same town as Michele Weiner-Davis. Are you familiar with Michele?? www.divorcebusting.com Michele Weiner-Davis - Divorce Busting - solution oriented brief therapy - Home I have been seeing Michele since May. Anyways, check out her web site if you would, please. It is also a wonderful site, in one of her forums MLC is the topic and I'm sure you could be helpful with your knowledge and wisdom. Last week Michele posed a question in the MLC forum, "is there is anyone such as youself that has lived the MLC insanity." My screen namy is "Rhonda" on Michele's site. When and if you get a chance there is a plethora of people out there that would greatly appreciate it!!! :) Thank You, Thank You!!! M.J.